There are many different factors that cause bad sex. But apart from the lack of consent, there is no one particular element that makes sex bad all the time. This is why I completely disagree with Margaret Wente’s recent criticism of casual sex. The idea that sexual desire or satisfaction corresponds strictly with commitment, when it comes to women, is simply false. Any attempt to control sexuality, much like the misguided attempts to control sexual orientation, is a losing battle.
People are as diverse as they are unpredictable. I do not claim greater understanding over why sexual relationships are good or bad. That should be the point. Instead of forcing everybody to be the same and act in the same way, people should be encouraged to make sexual decisions based on what is best for their mental, physical, and emotional well-being. This does not necessarily mean having casual sex, nor does it mean pursuing a committed relationship.
