One Thing That Can Improve Your Sex Life

Being in a great relationship for a long period of time can enrich your life, but when it comes to your sex life, it can also be a double-edged sword: You each have your moves down pat and know exactly what the other likes. Unfortunately, because you both know each other so well, it can eventually become mundane and boring. And as we all know, routine sex is boring sex, and that is exactly how couples fall into a rut, Kristen Mark, Ph.D., a sex researcher at the University of Kentucky, said to Men’s Health. If you’ve fallen into a rut, fear not. Getting out of your rut can be easily fixed by one thing: talking dirty.

Your brain is the most important sex organ in your body because it’s where your sex drive stems from. Entice and excite your brain by communicating with each other about sexual fantasies you each have, and also what you want to do to each other, which then translates to the physical. Many couples never talk about what they really want in bed, which is a precursor to falling into a sexual rut with your partner. Daryl Cioffi, who specializes in couples, relationships, sex, neuropsychology, and is the owner of Polaris Counseling & Consultingin Patucket, R.I., says that dirty talk is a whole mind and body experience.

Men: Can Helping With Chores Really Improve Your Sex Life?

Although many men may have known this little secret for years, it has only recently been studied and suggested to indeed be true. If you’re interested in improving your sex life with your partner, you may need to make less of an effort to be adventurous in bed and help with household chores instead. According to a recent study published in the Journal of Family Psychology, partners who help each other with household chores have better sex lives. The study specifically pinpoints the benefits of equally shared housework in relation to “sex among egalitarian couples,” but the researchers point out that the positive benefits (e.g., increased sex) do not come to fruition for all couples.

“In any relationship, the amount of housework is going to mean something different based on the couple’s context. Based on their own expectations for what each partner should be doing, and their comparison levels of what happens with other couples they know,” explained Dr. Matt Johnson, a family ecology professor in the Department of Human Ecology at the University of Alberta, in Medical Daily. Johnson and his colleagues analyzed 1,338 couples who had participated in the German Panel Analysis of Intimate Relationships and Family Dynamics (pairfam) project, controlled that couples had been together for five years, and revealed that men whofelt like they contributed their fair share of housework reported having a lot more sex.